Homeschool, although still called school, should NOT seek to emulate a classroom designed for challenges that home environments simply do not share.
The problem is: boxed, do-the-next-page curricula don’t work for us. Based on our kids, their learning styles, and our family rhythms we have chosen an eclectic, unschool-y approach. So far, it’s working pretty well.
Asynchrony is, in a nutshell, development outside of the expected developmental window. It’s usually a combination of really early and really late at the same time.
It means, in our case,
early reading but late collaborative play
early math but late physical coordination
early awareness of people’s emotions but late development of the maturity to deal with said emotions
early interest in and understanding of the world coupled with late development of the social skills that ease peer interactions
We can’t ask ourselves or our kids to control that which they do not see, any more than we can ask a colorblind person to match the colors or someone listening to loud music to respond to verbal commands. It doesn’t work.
The cool thing is that, in the early years especially, if we do activities with our kids that encourage them to look closely at letters and how they work together, especially in a non-threatening game format, we’ll be sharpening their spelling muscles and causing them to pay more attention to how words are spelled as they progress educationally.
When you engage your kids, every day is a homeschooling day.