Your Messy Kid Could Be a Perfectionist

Sometimes, perfectionism looks like someone spending hours and hours laboring over draft after draft, making sure everything is just exactly so, but for some, especially those who deal with executive function difficulties, it may look exactly the opposite.

Gifted Kids and the Rejection of External Motivation

Every once in a while, though, a student came along who was so disenchanted by the educational system, so convinced that it was irrelevant, that he did everything possible to declare his independence.
By the time they got to me, at age 15, it was almost too late.
What can we do in the early years to help kids stay engaged and motivated so they don’t reject the system and end up failing out of school?

Consent Starts at Home

I often wonder how much of what’s going on in the high school scene, college scene, and beyond is a symptom of how we allow “no” to be ignored early on.

“Boys will be boys”, or “It’s not that big of a deal”, or “He was just playing.”

No means No.

Stop means stop.

If a 3yo asks you to stop chasing them, stop tickling them, stop. And don’t use those words yourself unless you mean them.

About homeschooling and parenting

Something I wrote for the iHomeschool Network about our relationships with our kids and what takes precedence: The main point is this, but click above to read what else I had to say! 🙂 “The emotions and beliefs about themselves that children experience while they are learning will stay with them for the rest of…