It’s hard to be misunderstood, underestimated, asked to fit in a box that doesn’t come naturally. Parenting gifted kids is hard. The superhero baby may be a bit of a stretch, but not much. These kids have amazing capacities to learn, analyze, and create, but they can’t do so in a vacuum.
Our goal, at the end of December, is not for our kids to have felt entertained, spoiled, or pampered, but that instead they would have sensed, even more fully, what a gift Christmas is, what Love come down to Earth, is all about, and that they can take that with them in the weeks and years to come.
recently it’s becoming clearer that his unwillingness to approach these subjects is actually much more closely related to Emotional Overexcitabilities (OEs). He feels things so deeply that things which would, for others, be joyful, end up being excruciatingly overstimulating. The tooth fairy isn’t fun. She’s terrifying in the anticipation of when/what/how much.
We spent 2 wonderful hours at the beach this morning. It was beautiful. The kids did really well. And after two hours? It was enough. Time to pack up our stuff and hightail it outta there. Over the years, living with multiple children with over-active sensory responses and heightened anxieties, I’ve developed a sense myself…
Sometime around when he turned five, we got to the point that he could handle higher level non-fiction texts. The problem was that he could actually “overload” on new information. His brain couldn’t process and synthesize that much at the same time, and so, like an overworked CPU on a computer, we started having issues. More frequent meltdowns, the inability to make eye contact, regression in social awareness and interactions.