It’s hard to be misunderstood, underestimated, asked to fit in a box that doesn’t come naturally. Parenting gifted kids is hard. The superhero baby may be a bit of a stretch, but not much. These kids have amazing capacities to learn, analyze, and create, but they can’t do so in a vacuum.
It’s important that we find safe places – and people – in person as well as online — who listen without condemnation and then respond, “been there. I know what you’re talking about.”
We might even find some valuable help along the way.
When we connect with people, even through their biographies, they can inspire and challenge us. When we read about others with similar interests who go on to do great things, that makes us more willing to try hard things as well.
I often wonder how much of what’s going on in the high school scene, college scene, and beyond is a symptom of how we allow “no” to be ignored early on.
“Boys will be boys”, or “It’s not that big of a deal”, or “He was just playing.”
No means No.
Stop means stop.
If a 3yo asks you to stop chasing them, stop tickling them, stop. And don’t use those words yourself unless you mean them.
Unfortunately, for many of our gifted kids, much of their lives are spent feeling different, other. They tend to be hyper-aware of how they don’t fit in but, unless we help them find it, don’t realize there are others out there, like them, struggling with similar things but also with similar interests and strengths.
“I like you for who you are.” That’s it. That’s what makes healthy relationships, not I like you for what you do for me… I would like you if you would… If you change this or improve that, then… Simply: I like you for who you are. Whole and complete acceptance, flaws and all. This…