When we connect with people, even through their biographies, they can inspire and challenge us. When we read about others with similar interests who go on to do great things, that makes us more willing to try hard things as well.
I often wonder how much of what’s going on in the high school scene, college scene, and beyond is a symptom of how we allow “no” to be ignored early on.
“Boys will be boys”, or “It’s not that big of a deal”, or “He was just playing.”
No means No.
Stop means stop.
If a 3yo asks you to stop chasing them, stop tickling them, stop. And don’t use those words yourself unless you mean them.
We can’t ask ourselves or our kids to control that which they do not see, any more than we can ask a colorblind person to match the colors or someone listening to loud music to respond to verbal commands. It doesn’t work.
If you have kids between the ages of 4-8, I cannot recommend the game Obstacles by eeBoo highly enough. It’s amazing. Basically, it’s a cooperative story telling and problem solving experience. There are no winners or losers, and there’s lots of opportunity for collaboration and encouragement as the kids flex their problem solving muscles. You…